In a lot of divorces there are harsh feelings, and mixed emotions. It is advised that you try to maintain a healthy perspective and to detach yourself emotionally to the event so you can see the realities of the moment, not color the pain with anger. For men dealing with divorce this is not always easy, in fact it may be the hardest thing you ever do. It is vital to keep yourself busy so you can think, get used to other things and not feel sorry for yourself or angry at her for betraying you, if that’s what happened. Divorce can be hard but that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way.